Healing into Life
Spread Magic. Take a Leap.
For far too long, I forgot that I was magical. I forgot that the essence of my make up was pure, sparkling creative energy that could heal the oldest wounds and reach the depths of intimacy. I thought that the habitual thoughts, impulses, and behaviors of my conditioned self were the extent of who I was. In being identified with the part of myself that was shaped by experiences I had early in life, I lived as if I was who the world told me I was.
Cultivating Intimacy
I believe that we all long for deep intimacy. I also believe that we are deathly afraid of the vulnerability it takes to cultivate such depth of connection in our relationships. In a recent article I wrote for Marriage.com titled “3 ways to cultivate...
Vulnerability and Intimacy
I used to hide my truth from those around me in an attempt to earn love. On the deepest most unconscious level, I thought that if you really new me that you would never like me, let alone love me. I wrote about the cost of this in a recent...
How to Overcome Fear to Offer your Gifts to the World
When I was 6 years old I knew that I was a healer. Psychology was the only topic that interested me in college, and when I earned a MA in clinical psychology I thought I was ready to start a private practice. I set up my office and hung my...
Why do people get intrusive thoughts?
I was recently asked about the dark, intrusive thoughts that people sometimes get when they are feeling stress, chronic fear, or even immense love. In this video blog, I explain my experience with intrusive thoughts and share why I think they are a true...
Creating Deep Connection in your Relationships
In the past, the way that I have shown up for relationships has prevented me from experiencing deep connection. Even though I am a caring, loving person who is both thoughtful and open, the way in which I hid myself, my experience , and my truth from...
How can I manage my physical pain consciously?
When the body screams in pain, we have no choice but to listen. Well, that’s not exactly true: we can suppress it, resist it, hate it, get surgery on it, medicate it, and try to manage it. But the reality is that no intervention will give us the relief we...
How can you deal with people who trigger you?
Have you ever been triggered? Irritated? Annoyed? Have you ever been jealous? Judgmental? Angry? If you are, in fact, human, you likely answered “Yes!” to all of those questions. I have had countless experiences in my life where I have tried to...
How to use your suffering for your transformation
In my life when I have been in deep suffering, I have felt isolated and alone. I have felt disempowered and like I will never become the person I know I can be in the world. I have contracted in my ideas about my pain by resisting its presence and wishing...
Love: How to Stay Open to Real Love
Like many others, I have been searching for love in an intimate partnership. I have been wanting a partner to love me in a deep, unconditional way that validates my worth and beauty. In that search for love, I have tried to manage myself and others in the...
Thoughts on Shame, Vulnerability, and REAL LOVE
After revealing my body dysmorphia in my most recent video blog, here and on FaceBook, I had a realization about 2 of Brene Brown’s profound teachings. The first one: Shame keeps us isolated, and in being courageous enough to reveal our shame, we expand in...
Body Image: How can I learn to love my body AND lose weight?
I started yo-yo dieting when I was just six years old, and the path to a healthy weight and body image has been hard won. From the many years of navigating this body, from experiencing obesity and a postpartum physique, I have come to know that...
Baby Proofing your Marriage: Tips to Stay connected
In my very first video blog, I offer you tips to stay connected in your relationship before and after you bring your baby home. Becoming new parents can be stressful. When we’re not feeling resilient in a stressful situation, communication can...
3 Ways to Keep your Marriage Healthy After your Baby Arrives
Weather this is your first baby or your fourth, each time you bring a new life into your family your heart and your love grow. Even though this is the most beautiful and transformative experience, it also extremely stressful. Because I love to see families thrive, I...
How to find Real Love
In case you didn't know, I'm divorced. About 2 years ago I became so clear on the dysfunctional ways I engage in relationships that I could see that my marriage was based in destructive patterns. My ego is shaped to put other people's needs...
