Spiritual Alignment Articles
How to Facilitate the Deepening of Contact
The contact boundary is where we meet and withdraw from our environment. Contact Boundary Disturbance is a "habit in which a response (to avoid contact) manifests in the individual’s personality even though the original circumstances under which the disturbance may...
How do codependency and narcissism impact relationships?
Internal distortions are the birthplace of entanglement patterns. Two people simultaneously clinging to ego and rejecting aspects of themselves creates the entanglement. When we are identified with our conditioned self, and continue to reject parts of ourselves, we...
How Do I Heal My Attachment Wounds?
Attachment styles were an adaptive response to the experiences we had in childhood. Intimate relationships engage our attachment system. The vagus nerve is responsible for nervous system regulation through the social engagement system (see Blog post:...
How Do I Work With Trauma in a Spiritually Aligned Session?
As we support our clients in repairing their nervous system, we tend to the somatic expression of their experience. We also support clients in creating mental clarity as they talk through their past experiences. The more regulated and clear a person becomes,...
How Can I Stop Fighting with my Partner?
Recognizing that your partner is not a separate other, you can meet them in the deepest and purest point of contact. Otherizing is the ego’s way of looking to people as finite. With judgment and assessment, we otherize our partner and simultaneously we feel small and...
How Can I Co-Regulate in my Relationship?
Coregulation is an interactive process of supporting one another’s regulatory state. It is synergistic and mutually beneficial. Codependency occurs when we feel responsible for other people and have a hard time asking for what we need and knowing we matter....
Honoring Your Intuitive Clairsenses Strengthens Their Presence in Your Life
Honoring your intuition is essential in honoring your spiritual Self. Any information that you receive that is beyond logic or reason is an intuitive gift.When you ignore this gift, your intuition gets quieter and more obscure. When you honor this gift, your intuition...
4 Keys to Resting in Your Infinite Self
https://youtu.be/_JS0GQCIoyI When we are born, we are the embodiment of the True Self, which is the spontaneous expression of life and the essence of all things. Quietly, in the privacy of our own mind, the conditioned self develops in response to the experiences we...
5 Things You Need to Know About Spiritual Alignment and Trauma
The nervous system is integral to our ability to function in almost every way. It has two main elements: Central and Peripheral. The central nervous system is comprised of the brain and the spinal cord. It controls most functions of the body and the mind,...
Spiritually Aligned Coaching
Do you see your clients remotely or in person? Either way, there is a way to practice psychotherapy and coaching that decreases potential burnout and increases potential transformation--for both you and your clients. Anytime we engage in relationships, we are engaging...
The Spiritually Aligned
In my work with clients, I pay attention to the subtle ways in which people leave their healthy, aware state. And when they deviate from their health, I subtly guide them back to the core of their being. The core of their being is their home base. It's their alignment...
Are you speaking your truth or are you just projecting?
It’s common to see our relationships through the lens of unconscious memories of people from our past (projections), through barriers or walls to intimacy (deflections), through old ideas from the past about who we are (introjections), through shame and guilt (retroflections), or through the opinions of others (confluence). In Gestalt psychotherapy, we call these Contact Boundary Disturbances. All of these disturbances are patterned ways of being in relationships that we developed early in life in an attempt to find safety and keep connection. These were adaptable strategies that helped us when we didn’t yet know how to stand in our dignity and our truth.
