As we support our clients in repairing their nervous system, we tend to the somatic expression of their experience. We also support clients in creating mental clarity as they talk through their past experiences. The more regulated and clear a person becomes, the more access they have to their higher consciousness. 

During a traumatic event, the body contracts in fear and the mind has thoughts of fight or flee. If that trauma is prolonged, the body shuts down. The mind has thoughts of freeze or fawn and access to higher dimensions are shut off as the person’s system attempts to keep them safe from harm. The internal experience is one of being disconnected from the Source of life, disconnected from God. The mind looks to the outside world for safety, and the habits that keep a person turning away from vertical alignment become more and more common. The way the body holds trauma is the entry point to opening up the energy centers to support a return to alignment.  The way the mind looks to other people as the source of love, approval, and safety is also essential to repair as we heal trauma. Other people are not “God.” The new habit to learn is looking vertically to the core of our being for love, approval, and safety.

Inviting the client to validate every aspect of their experience is important for the repair of their system. Everything they experience in response to trauma is wise and adaptive. They survived! When they cling to their experience or resist it, they prevent themselves from healing. Through self-validation, the client can shift to awake awareness, which is the part of themselves that is already free. Without bypassing any part of their trauma, they can walk through it with their eyes wide open and find their way back home to their Self.

The 4 Steps Spiritually Aligned Practitioners Use to Work with Trauma:

  1.  Invite your client to validate every aspect of their experience (Self love): “It makes sense to me you feel this way.”

      2. Have them wrap it with awareness; awake awareness has the ability to welcome everything

      3. From this place, ask them, “What does this sensation need from you?”

4. Invite them to breathe in the breath of self-love, loving every aspect of themselves–mind, body, emotions, and spirit.

At the core of their being, up the midline of the body, is the client’s home base. It is their alignment with the Source that beats their heart, and it is their Source of healing, vitality, and love. This is where their true sense of well-being comes from. When they talk about other people, it offers us insight into them. We can listen to their narratives, reflect them, and gently guide their attention back to their home base. Learning how to recognize their emotional and cognitive reactions are an important part of their healing. Next, learning to explore what they need from themselves when in an emotional activation is part of the repair. Then, giving themselves what they need is self-healing. Accessing their higher consciousness, bringing that into their human experience, is where the deepest repair happens. Aligning with Source and responding from this alignment is where the new, updated life is expressed.


Kwiker, H. (2022). Align: Living and Loving from the True Self. Mantra Books, UK. 


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