Spiritual alignment is the energetic expression of the boundless energy of life itself moving through you undistorted and unthwarted. When the midline of your body is an open channel, the river of your vital force pulses through you in divine flow with the universal energy of all of life. This is the natural expression of your health. However, it is often thought of as a peak state that is reserved for the special few who can achieve it. To empower you to live and love from this potent and magnetic energy of your essential self, I wrote Align: Living and Loving from the True Self, a comprehensive guide to living your alignment.
The table of contents of Align illustrate why Susan Campbell, Ph.D., author of Getting Real and From Triggered to Tranquil, wrote, “Harmony Kwiker is an excellent writer, and she knows her field. Align is one of the most comprehensive self-help books I have ever read. I believe that reading this book could offer the equivalent of several years of good psychotherapy. I will recommend it highly to both clients and professional colleagues.”
If you are curious about what is inside of Align, take a look:
Contents:
Introduction
Part 1: The Developing Sense of Self
Chapter 1: The Conditioned Self
Differentiating from Our Conditioning
The Role of Our Caregivers
The Ego
Unfinished Business from the Past
The Role of Trauma
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: The Mask of Conditioning
Walkaway with Wisdom
Chapter 2: The True Self
Discovering the True Self
The Family Story
Leaving One’s Self
Attachment Styles
The Fertile Void
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Describe the Indescribable
Walkaway with Wisdom
Chapter 3: The Integrated Self
Attention Guides Our Identity
The Alchemy of Integration
Integrated Felt Sense
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Encompassing Multitudes
Walkaway with Wisdom
Chapter 4: The Emerging Self
Life Urge
Emerging in relationships
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Ignite Your Becoming
Walkaway with Wisdom
Part 2: Finding Our Alignment
Chapter 5: The Shadow
Disowned Parts
The Role of Shame
Projective Identification
Claiming Our Shadow
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Claim Your Darkness
Walkaway with Wisdom
Chapter 6: Distorted Life Force
Subtle Energy Body
Line of Distortion
The Polarity of Distortion
Working with Polarities
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Embody the Polarity
Walkaway with Wisdom
Chapter 7: The Core of Our Being
Finding our Alignment
Exercise: Opening Our Energy Centers
Coming Back to Ourselves
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Activate Your Alignment
Walkaway with Wisdom
Part 3: Contacting Our Essence
Chapter 8: Disrupting Contact
What Is Contact?
Contact Boundary Disturbances
“Shouldisms” and “Aboutisms”
Creating Quality Contact
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Staying in Contact
Walkaway with Wisdom
Chapter 9: We Are Already Whole
Blocks to Subtle Energy
Paradox of Change
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Self-Love
Exercise: Mapping the Patterns of the Conditioned Self
Walkaway with Wisdom
Chapter 10: Returning to Innocence
The Relational Effects of Trauma
The Role of Our Inner Young One
Working with Younger Parts
Exploration
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Reparenting Your Inner Young One
Walkaway with Wisdom
Chapter 11: Deepening into Our Experience
Somatic Curiosity
Metabolizing Old Emotional Pain
The Role of Chronic Physical Pain
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Somatic Attunement
Walkaway with Wisdom
Chapter 12: Systemic Inequity
Field Theory
The Role of Power Structures
Ancestral Patterns
Decolonizing Psychotherapy
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Right Use of Power
Walkaway with Wisdom
Part 4: Aligned Relationships
Chapter 13: Interconnection
Entangled Relationships
Polarity Distortion in Relationships
The Polarity of Feminine and Masculine Energies
Finding Resonance
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Connecting to Your Inner Young One
Walkaway with Wisdom
Chapter 14: Relationships without Entanglements
Energetic Boundaries
Honoring Ourselves
Becoming Fully Aligned
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Cultivating Healthy Boundaries
Exercise: Track Your Desires
Walkaway with Wisdom
Chapter 15: Intentional Language
The Language of Distortion
Fully Owning Our Experience
Connection or Control
Correction as Distortion
Exploration
The Language of the True Self
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Find the Language of Self Responsibility
Walkaway with Wisdom
Chapter 16: Intentional Listening
The Filter We Listen Through
Listening beyond Words
The Power of Curiosity
Reflective Listening
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Be a Mirror
Walkaway with Wisdom
Chapter 17: Revealing Our Truth
Vulnerability Creates Deeper Connection
Keeping an Eye on the Inside
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Practice Revealing
Alone: Notice your experience of yourself
With a Partner: Relational Meditation
Walkaway with Wisdom
Chapter 18: Conscious Relating
Being in Relationship
Sacred Connection
Relational Practice
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Practicing Relational Conflict Resolution
Walkaway with Wisdom
Part 5: The Undefended Heart
Chapter 19: Doorway to the Heart
The Cloaked Heart
Openheartedness Sows Openheartedness
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Your Resonant Heart
Exercise: Finding Resonance with a Partner
Walkaway with Wisdom
Chapter 20: Sacred Embodiment
Relating to Our Body
Beyond Objectification
Too Much
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Body love
Walkaway with Wisdom
Chapter 21: Conscious Sexuality
Sexual Transformation
Self-Pleasure
Intentional Pleasure Practices
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Tantric Breathing
Walkaway with Wisdom
Chapter 22: Living in Alignment
Lifelong Learning
Working with Affirmations
Cycle of Alignment
Harmony’s Story
Exercise: Each Day Is a Sacred Opportunity to Move from Our Alignment
Walkaway with Wisdom
Final Thoughts and Wishes
From the Author
Vocabulary
References
“We are living in a time in the world when it is all too easy to feel lost or disconnected from ourselves. Harmony gives us a compass and a map to find our way home. She reminds us of the universal themes that unite us as individuals through her personal vignettes and she assists us to awaken to our own true nature. She is the compassionate therapist and gifted spiritual teacher that we need to guide us on our journey through life. This book is a gift.”
~Dr. Arielle Schwartz, author of The Post-Traumatic Growth Guidebook and The Complex PTSD Workbook