Feb 21, 2023 | communication, nervous system, polyvagal, psychotherapy, relationships
Attachment styles were an adaptive response to the experiences we had in childhood. Intimate relationships engage our attachment system. The vagus nerve is responsible for nervous system regulation through the social engagement system (see Blog post:...
Jan 26, 2023 | awakening, communication, consciousness, emotional attunement, intimacy, relationships, spirituality, transformation
Recognizing that your partner is not a separate other, you can meet them in the deepest and purest point of contact. Otherizing is the ego’s way of looking to people as finite. With judgment and assessment, we otherize our partner and simultaneously we feel small and...
Jan 19, 2023 | communication, consciousness, emotional attunement, intimacy, nervous system, relationships
Coregulation is an interactive process of supporting one another’s regulatory state. It is synergistic and mutually beneficial. Codependency occurs when we feel responsible for other people and have a hard time asking for what we need and knowing we matter....
Apr 28, 2020 | communication, intimacy, relationships
Last week in my conscious communication and connection group, a participant expressed care and curiosity about another participant. In response to this expression of care and curiosity, the participant receiving the comment responded with, “I don’t believe him.” After...
Apr 15, 2019 | communication, consciousness, intimacy, relationships, spirituality
Sometimes, relationships seem hard. The challenge of negotiating different personas, different desires, different opinions, and different communication styles can be overwhelming. Navigating a relationship with conscious awareness means that we are able to...
Apr 12, 2019 | communication, emotional attunement, intimacy, relationships
It happens all the time: Your child tells you to go away. Your friend wants space. Your in-laws are closed off to deep conversation. Your spouse gets triggered and pulls away. How can we connect with those who don’t want connection? 1.) Get curious about your...
